10 Tips for Beating a Crush: Tip 1

Anastasis Faith
Today is the first day of our series, “Ten Tips for Beating a Crush.” I’m super excited about this series! Every Tuesday and Friday, I will post one tip for beating a crush. There will be stories from girls just like you who have experienced the same things you’re going through, as well as verses to help you fight.
If you missed the post, “Ten Tips for Beating a Crush—The Heart,” I high encourage you to read that before reading this post. Having all the practical tips in the world won’t help unless you have a heart that desires to put Christ above all else.
Now on to today’s tip for beating a crush!

1.   Change your mindset

Change your mindset from “I’m out of control!” to “I’m not bound to my feelings.” I don’t have to be driven by my emotions.

“Everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things. They then do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. Therefore I run in such a way, as not without aim; I box in such a way, as not beating the air; but I discipline my body and make it my slave, so that, after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified.”
1 Corinthians 9:25-27
(emphasis added)

Don’t build your life upon your emotions. Discipline your emotions—take control of them! And ultimately, let Christ drive your emotions, rather than letting your emotions drive your attitude toward God.
Yes, emotions are hard to control, but through God’s grace, we can overcome our feelings and surrender them back to God.

Change your mindset from “I need a guy” to “I need God.” Because YOU DON’T NEED A GUY. God created you to need HIM! Not a guy. In the case of most of us, God probably did create us to be the helpmeet for a certain guy. But right now, when we’re not married, we don’t need a guy. Even when we’re married, God is our true need and fulfillment. Putting aside the mindset of “I need a guy” has helped me realize more and more that I need God.

“And my God will supply every need of yours according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”
                                                Philippians 4:19

“So we can confidently say, ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?’”
                                                Hebrews 13:6

Change your mindset from “potential husband” to “brother in Christ.”
A good way to do this is to not allow yourself to think of him in a way that you wouldn’t think of your brother (assuming you have a brother). This helped me a lot. Also, pray for him. And not prayers like, “God, please help him like me.” No, no, no! Remember that guys struggle a lot and they’re fighting sin in their lives just like we are. Especially in this culture and world, our brothers in Christ need our prayers, not our flirtations. Pray for them that God would give them strength and build them into the leaders they are called to be. 

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.”
James 5:16

“How can a young man keep his way pure?
By keeping it according to Your Word.”
Psalm 119:9

We need to change our mindset from what Satan and the world wants us to believe to the truth found in God’s Word.  Changing your mindset about yourself and the guys around you is a huge step in beating a crush.

What are your thoughts? Have you found yourself overwhelmed by your emotions? What lies have you believed about guys? What has God been teaching you about staying focused on Him through a crush? Share your comments!

Anastasis Faith / Author & Editor

Anastasis is a Texas girl who enjoys writing, blogging, and music. You can connect with her here on her blog, or at morningglorypursuingjesus @yahoo.com


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